Transaction Theory of Life: A Theory on Gives & Takes in Life

For quite many years I have believed (or so my brother and Deepak Chopra's book "Seven Spiritual Laws of Success" have made me believe) that whenever you do a good thing for somebody or even think good about anybody that comes back to you as good wishes/deed from others. However, the relationship between these two i.e. good wish/deed for others, and a good wish/deed from others may not be always straight and linear. That is, if I did a good thing for X or wished good for X, X may not always return me the gesture with a good deed/wish towards me.... but well, another person,Y, may return me that unexpectedly. So good things/wishes may come back to you from any quarter or corner - the rate of return is some times more and some times less compared to our good wishes/deeds. The same is true for bad deeds/wishes. Some are of the view that rate of return in this second case is higher than what we wished for or did -- may or may not be true. It's probably difficult to practice the first one i.e. good deeds or at least good thoughts for everyone we meet. And it is very easy to practise the second one, bad wishes/thoughts (if not deeds) for everyone we meet. At least that's what we see all around. We don't find a reason to think good about many people we meet.

For some part of my life I thought of at least trying to practise the first one and the results were phenomenon. I got bounties of good wishes from people, and abundant help from unknown individuals at very crucial stages in my life. At the same time, I also came across people who without any reason behaved not-so-decently with me even when I never thought anything bad about them. I realized that while trying to practise the first one, probably many times I have slipped into the convenient second one. Is it really very difficult to say everybody we meet -'God bless you' or 'do well in your life' ? Is it difficult to think of such things about people irrespective of whether we know them or not ? Well, may not be really very difficult, but it certainly needs practice and a refined thought process..... may be my mundane miracles like the ricksaw-puller or the paan (betel) shop owner have learnt the art and excel in it much more than lesser mortals like me .....

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Anonymous said…
Huumm !! Nice thoughts, Supriti.

Realization has got the answer to all your questions, in fact. At the end of all what we do, if we try to find what will be the consequences - that won't help us to refine the way we would step next. But the reverse is always the best.

Wishing you all the best.
3:30:00 AM
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